LOVE

I know what love is, at least, I think I know. A tenet of my personality is the belief that I can learn something from everyone. Age, gender, socio economic class, varying intelligence levels. Keeping an open attitude has given me some very enriching experiences. 

Also ~ I reserve the right to be wrong, the privilege of admitting when knowing I have erred. Best to recognize, own up, apologize. Make restitution if it's called for.

However, when I know I'm right, I may bend a little, yet, will stand my ground. Sometimes, simply back off for the purpose of keeping peace. Hence the phrase, know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em! Having peace in my life is the best! 

Since I'm a girl, I will be giving a female perspective. Have not, nor do I foresee ever agreeing with the femi-nazis. In spite of the heartbreak & pain dealt to me by males, I will not let myself dislike anyone simply based on their gender. I LOVE MEN!

A smart guy usually knows how to inspire attraction, knows what to say, what to do, to play with a girls emotions. He usually can read just what to say & do to get the girl "hooked".
Once she's hooked, the guy knows that she will believe all the lies he tells her no matter how far fetched.
Girls fall for what they are told.
Guys fall for what they see.

Mostly, this is why guys tell lies, girls use artificial means to look better. For girls, however, it's a dual purpose. Girls tend to feel better when they look better. It adds to her self confidence.

Self confidence is very sexy for both genders.

Dating & relationship coaches are always telling girls,~

"He will not fall in love with you just because you have sex with him."

This statement is mostly true. Yet, the world sends a big lie to girls which causes the girl to feel hope, confusion, worse!

Here's what I mean.
What is a condom sometimes called?
A love glove! This sends a false message. A message that if the guy uses a condom, he loves her.

People who don't want to admit the vulgarity of using another person for casual sex, will refer to sexual intercourse will call it, "making love". There it is, again. Falsely telling a girl that love is involved even though the couple only knew each other for a brief time, most likely, will not see each other again.

Many songs will describe a brief sexual encounter as one person "being loved" or "I just wanna love you, love you." It allows people to feel better about sleeping around. Sugar coating 2 people screwing with the "L" word, which makes the girls think that there's a chance that her hit-it, quit it Romeo could turn into more. A relationship. Sorry, sweetie, it's false!

Most guys see it as nothing more than using a girl to get off.

It's sad. The actions of casual sex have, in part, spawned the feminist movement. Many girls, who believed the lies told to them to procure sex, become angry, hurt, worst of all? Angry with most people of the male gender, solely based on his gender.

Very, very sad.

Yes, there are some skanky man-pigs out in the world. Unfortunately, having met many, I can attest to this. 

There are also many good guys out there in the world. Some may be a bit older, having used their fair share of girls for their own selfish purposes. With their decline in T-levels plus life experience, many refrain from lying to & using girls for sex.
Not all guys learn this essential lesson of controlling the "D".
Ha ha!
Some are still doing these horrendously damaging acts on into their 50s, 60s+ that hurt girls. They may be married or single, in a committed relationship or simply prolonging their tomcat activities. One day, a married guys wife may get tired of these acts which put her at risk & at around the 20 - 30 year mark of marriage, she will decide she's had enough & files for divorce. Having witnessed how devastated the guys are, I do feel a bit of pity for. Have seen this scenario several times.
So sad.
Some guys never commit or don't commit for very long. I see these guys, a lot. They find themselves older, with less appeal, with little to nothing to offer a girl of any age..........
........and, alone, feeling regret for having wasted their time, out screwing as many girls as they get the chance to screw.
These guys will claim to be Christian or religious. They may be CEOs, auto mechanics, of all races, socio economic backgrounds.

To sum it up? Girls, you should never believe a guys words. Corporations watch new employees for 30 - 120 days to determine the persons character. The corporations watch to see if the person is worth keeping, as an asset to the company. There is no health insurance, no company discounts. Likewise for any other goodies, until the person has proved that they will be a valuable contributor to the company.
Girls, a lot can be learned from this practise of watching & waiting.

Ignore a guys words. Be aware of his actions, whether he follows through on what he says he will do. Is he where he says he will be, when he says he will be there. Does he call when he says he will?
You have mostly heard this many times.
Why?
Because it's true.
Even when he follows through on everything, hold back & watch him, my personal recommendation is 90 days. Protect your heart as he will most likely be protecting his.

Tune out the references to "LOVE". 

There are many good guys in the world. Some of the good guys need you to behave as a girl with self respect, to bring out the goodness in him.

Love?

Love yourself, respect yourself. The rest will follow!

Peace & the "L" word, to you!