Since the beginning of time, the world has been mostly dominated by men. If a woman was to have much of a happy life, she either had to remain single, enlist the help of men or both. A woman with a great sum of money, properties, etc. was highly sought after. Every man knew that by law, whatever the woman had would belong to him, she would have very little or no say in the matter, after the fateful for the female, wedding vows were made. Legal.
As soon as a woman married a man, everything of hers was no longer hers.
Even if she had a child from a previous relationship or marriage, the child became her husbands property, also. Even if she had worked to build a profitable business? Even if her fortune was from her family money, it was no longer hers.
If toads fell from her mouth or she laid golden eggs, she lost it all. Whatever toads fell from her mouth, whatever golden eggs she laid, became the property of the man she married.
It has only been, at least in the USA, since 1960, that women and children were no longer property of their husbands & fathers. Males could as well as did, as they pleased regarding wives & children. If a man grew tired of or bored with or had any unpleasant situation, regarding his wife, he sometimes killed her if he was poor, put her away in a convent or asylum for the mentally/emotionally ill, if he was wealthy.
Likewise with the children.
They could be loaned out, put out, killed, used for sexual pleasure or even sold.
Boys were treated thusly until the age of 21 or until they could fight back. Girls were nearly mandated to live with their parents until they married. Most marriages were arranged for the girls, sometimes as wee as 14 yrs.
Rape was common. If a girl "got herself with child" it was her problem unless the father of the child was unmarried, willing to accept responsibility.
Those were very bleak times to be female.
Caveat ~ In spite of the 90% Negative - 10% positive romantic experiences with males, I still love men. I love their scent, their voices, their world views. I especially love it when I see or hear of a guy who truly strives to be a good person.
Testosterone is a VERY hard-to-handle force.
I know this first hand, as I have higher testosterone than most girls.
The more rights & advances females make, the more angry males are becoming. I see the misogyny online, mostly. It's a safe place for an angry male to, from his keyboard in anonymity, fire away at females.
Reducing them to T & A, using offensive sexist ploys to vent their anger & frustration at all females of the world, past & present, whoever hurt them or angered them or was simply female.
I see the barrage on social media, on Star Trek FB pages, of sexy school girls in Star Trek bikinis, the photos of men ogling their wives breasts in public. Looking closer at this, it actually looks like a camera angle misinterpreted to be whatever perversion some bloke online wanted it to mean.
One day, on the Star Trek: Picard FB page, after the 5th sexist post within less than an hour, I protested.
What was the response?
The response was to stalk, skulk & dig around for the *ONE* post I had ever posted of an attractive topless man. That was just *ONE* post of mine vs 50 posts submitted & approved by an admin person, of scantily clad girls, some of these girls look to be around 16. Most of the males on the page are advanced in age sufficient to be the fathers & grandfathers of the girls they are ogling.
The admins have to approve the posts, most of the admins are male.
The women were silent except for one female admin who simply regurgitated something said by a male on the FB page.
Occasionally, a guy who sees the hatefulness & horny school boy immaturity being perpetuated, he will speak up. He is soon targeted by the prior mentioned, along with targeting me.
Yeah, I'm seriously considering leaving the haters, sexist, misogyny of that FB page.
In truth?
This is only the surface of a bigger problem.
Along with the Japanese invasion of video entertainment, then, the addiction of video gaming, it has created a monster force of generations of disenfranchised males.
The feeling of winning, going to a higher level, the prestige of being revered by other gamers.
This has replaced the ambition & satisfaction that boys & men used to derive mostly from athletics, education, hard work, success & achievement.
Having watched this with horror, no one wants to hear about it, read it or even admit to it.
Many of the ambitions to achieve status in life have been replaced with achievement of a higher game score, a higher level in World of Warcraft amongst a long list of other highly addictive activities.
Video gaming has shunted off the very essence of masculinity in males who used to have a firm handshake. It has been replaced by mushy palms & muscular thumbs. The golden appearance from being outdoors has been replaced by a pallor, red rimmed eyes. The weight gain from too many unhealthy snacks & highly caffeinated liquids to maintain a high energy level in gaming have also shunted off social skills needed to succeed at personal relationships.
There are too many males who are in their late twenties, 30s, even on into their 40s & 50s still playing online as they did in college or childhood or both.
Personally?
It is my belief that the semi death of masculinity from the Japanese invasion of detrimental very small, slow growth tech addiction, is only a part of the growing misogyny.
Another part is that the power shift is very uncomfortable for the male population. They no longer own their females & children.
Male domination was a very difficult position to lose.
Also, males are becoming feminized, beginning in public as well as sometimes private schools. A BIG mistake was to take away the breaks of recess throughout the school day.
Most male children NEED that physical activity throughout the day to be able to focus on their school work.
Some female children need it, too, however, that beautiful facet of the male born trait to be strong, to run, jump, to conquer, to achieve, is more common in male children.
So, early in life, males are being feminized. Then, addiction to substances (nicotine, caffeine, alcohol, etc) along with siphoning their innate desire to achieve into virtual lives online, video gaming, second lives, virtual lives.
Turning to pornography often goes hand in hand with computer interaction. It provides the same thrill.
Pornography lights up the same pleasure areas in the brain as second life & gaming.
Many males are wasting their children's childhoods. Many men are wasting time they could have spent strengthening their relationships with their wives as well as sacrificing time they could have better spent maintaining the bonds of friendship, along with their extended families.
Whether it's pornography, computer second lives & games, heroin, alcoholism. The result is the same.
Yes, there are women who do this, too, yet, unfortunately the vast majority are male.
For this, among many reasons, I admire men who spend their time improving their homes. Creating a beautiful living environment, building, improving their property. Getting out there to push their physical endurance.
**This is NOT to include professional, over paid athletes. **
I love to see the look of satisfaction on a mans face from a fence he built, a piece of furniture he created or re-finished, satisfaction in seeing a business he built, rise to be successful.
When a man can control his impulses to over indulge in unhealthy practices (we all need to indulge a little, time to time), he has already accomplished so much.
By turning toward that which will give him real satisfaction instead of the false sense of achievement in electronic pursuits, he edifies himself greatly. When he does this while maintaining self respect as well as courtesy to all with the natural gentlemanly attitude toward females, he has accomplished so much!
It is my belief that the voluntary, self disempowerment is at the root of the hatred or at least disdain that comes out in the mostly online misogyny.
The answer is for more men to be more masculine. Turning away from the substances which steal their ability, siphon off their social skills, give them a false sense of achievement.
Turning toward the wonderful traits of true, healthy masculinity. Take back that firm handshake, take back the feeling that being chivalrous gives. The art of truly being a gentleman.
Take back the feeling of being a good man who rises up from his pseudo electronic world, takes care of his responsibilities to his people.
Responsibilities to strengthen the relationships in his life, ultimately his world.
Mothers & Fathers will eventually pass on. Brothers & Sisters will, too, eventually.
Wives will feel the neglect.
Children will grow into adulthood.
Friendships will wither without time invested.
The list can continue on. The point has been made.
Please, good men, choose to truly live.
