How could you possibly be single?

How Could You Possibly be Single???

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People ask this a lot!

These are all legal terms:
Single, Divorced, Married, Separated, Widowed

People use these terms to interpret them as they wish, kinda like people use bible verses to mean what they wish for them to mean. People who say someone is their "wife" or "husband" when they are just shacking up fail to understand that "wife" or "husband" is not a term of affection, it's a legal term used to define legal status.
Having not paid the fee for blood tests, a marriage license, maybe a few hundred or few thousand for a marriage ceremony & reception, the couple who did this, is married. It's like someone who went to school, put forth the effort, paid the fees, took the tests, passed the certification boards can now call themselves an Attorney or a Doctor. Someone who simply has medical or legal knowledge cannot legally call themselves an attorney nor can they call themselves a doctor simply because they wish to function as one.

Okay, got that out of my system!

Hello, my legal status is single as in "legally divorced". In my definition?

"Single by choice"

People ask me all the time, "How can you possibly be single?" or "Why are you single?"
The answer is that I am choosing to stay single. I'm a single woman. That doesn't totally define me. I'm also a devoted mother, a very active fitness lover, a practicer of meditation & peace. Yet, those don't totally define me,either. Like most people, I have many facets of my life. Some of those I will share, most, I keep hidden. They're private.

Life is filled up for me. I work at a job I love, however, my workouts are my main priority. 2 hours every morning, 1 -2 hours in the evening, usually after work. have taken up a new hobby, lately, making jewelry! It's relatively new, so many fascinating and beautiful combinations. Have given some of my creations as gifts, kept most for myself.

Men, real men are people I love. Men who are honest, truthful. Boys are basically males who can't see past their penis. Real men? They have integrity. Men know that one definition of a coward is a male who voluntarily or involuntarily awakens the love in a woman knowing he is not free to nor does he intend to love her in return.
I love men who have feelings for the way their actions affect others. Men of confidence, of courage who accept personal,professional responsibility for their actions.

Too many males in today's world perpetrate emotional harm on women with little to no consequences. These despicable males and their predecessors have spawned the feminist movement. I am not a supporter of the feminist movement, yet, I see why it was started. The feminist movement had good reasons & purpose, yet, they go a bit too far into overkill for my taste.

Dating? What? What's that? Something I do...sometimes, mostly, I avoid it.

The dating climate in today's world is quite nightmarish.

There are:

!. Married males who act single. Of course, they tell women they are married although they act more single than married. When they get in with the woman over their head (yes, even cold hearted snakes can have feelings) they can always go back to their wife. They excuse their reprehensible actions with, "I was honest. I told her I'm married." This is a weak, pathetic way to justify cheating in their narcissist minds.

2. Single guys who date as a means to get sex. Dating to get sex is like stealing food because you're hungry. Still wrong no matter how you look at it. 
BTW ~ I date, no sex involved.

3. The guys who fall in love on the first date, convinced that "you're the one" before they know much about you. She's pretty, she's breathing.......I'll take her!

4. The dreaded "FWB" guys. AKA "No Strings"

5. The liars. They will tell a woman they are looking for a relationship, "someone special" looking for "the one". They will tell her all kinds of BS just to get her to drop her sweet little panties. Sometimes they romance her to the point that anyone would fall in love with him, then, having the ego gratification they sought, they disappear. *POOF*

6. The overly jealous guys. They claim to care so much, it makes them jealous if anyone comes near their woman. Especially a male person. This can get downright dangerous!

What the negative side of dating is, FOR ME, is the males out there using a woman for her body. Sickening & sad. 
They try, I say TRY to do that with me. I tend to cut to the chase, letting them know that I won't have sex outside of marriage. *POOF* He's gone. Another one bites the dust.
BTW ~ I'm not looking to get married. I have a nice home, nice car, good job, good income. I'm fine just as I am. It would take someone REALLY FANTASTIC to make me want to give up my freedom.

Focusing on my career takes a lot of emotional energy which I gladly expend. Focusing on my workouts improves my body, my mind plus expends a great deal of sexual energy. Focusing on spending time with people in groups makes it a fun, no pressure way to socialize with guys and girls.

Until a real man of integrity, courage & confidence comes into my life, I know I am better off single.
Happily single. 
If he never does, I'm happy with who I am. 
Happily single is better than miserably married.