Anti-Social Personality Disorder.

If you are reading, hoping for a diagnosis or reading to see if this blog is about you, you will be disappointed.

Peeps!

I'm just a simple girl, writing a blog. I will leave the diagnosing to a real doctor.

If you are reading this because you think you might have anti-social personality disorder or even being accused of it, relax! Take a deep breath, refrain from calling 911. 
They can't help you.
Only you can help you.
It's your circus & your monkey.

Psychology holds a great deal of interest for me. The why, the who, the how, the way to discover what makes others "tick".

There are many armchair psychologists walking around or on the internet or even living right next door. 

Favorites of moi?

You Tube is just crawling with people who are the real deal. People who have gone to med school, gotten the training, suffered through residency, set up a private practice, are now very learned as to all the suffering in the world. Also, very learned as to those who inflict the suffering on others through various means.

Unfortunately, it seems that everyone plays the perp at some time as well as sometimes being the target. Sometimes you're the windshield, sometimes you're the...…… ha ha, you got it!

I follow a few of these Psycho-Gurus because it's fascinating. They turn the human mind inside out, tunnel in here & there, examine motives, actions, relationships.

Dr. Ramani Durvasala aka Dr. Ramani
Marisa Peer
Esther Perel

Just three.

It's only coincidence that all three are women. If you try to lob the feminazi fireball at me, it won't stick. Calm down, Clyde. :)

Dr. Ramani has some very interesting ideas as well as experiences in her booming practice in LA, Cali.

There is an in-law, married to one of my family members who meets most of the criteria of anti-social personality disorder. 
This person is very subtly isolating my blood family member from the rest of us. 
By being non-supportive in their spouses interactions with family members, by being non-communicative, slowly, isolating their spouse from family, it's very sad, it's working. Only my family member can make the situation change.

It's the same principle as boiling a frog.
The frog, initially is in some nice warm water, happy to stay there, then, the heat is very slowly turned. Eventually, the frog finally realizes they are being cooked, yet unable to get out of the pot.

Have you watched the Disney cartoon of Beauty & The Beast?

Of course, it's clear that the beast, at one time was a handsome Prince. He is found by a young woman who sees him when he is a beast, yet, she believes that if she sings some happy songs and puts a pretty dress on, he will stop being a beast, he will turn back into the handsome Prince.
In the fairy tale, he does.
Sadly, it ain't necessarily so, in real life.
The beast will remain as a beast in real life, only showing glimpses of the Prince, enough to keep their spouse hanging in there.
No one can tell the beast, anything. The beast feels like as long as they are content, everyone else has to just deal with their beastly ways. The other people are the problem, all 100, it's not them.
The spouse (male or female) keeps singing the songs, putting pretty clothes on, doing everything they can, just to get a glimpse of the Prince again. They think it's them, they wear themselves out trying so hard to appease the beast.
I was in a marriage with someone like this, it's emotional drain.
Appeasement is futile.

Mmm Hmm.

Is there a beast in your family?