Then, you see a beautiful flower, convinced it is real, you touch it. It looks real, it seems real. Until you find that it's fake.
This may deliver a slight sense of disappointment.
It's simply skilled craftsmanship which makes polyester, cotton fibers, rubber, paint, dyes, airbrushing seem real.
Being fooled in any theater is a self disappointing experience.
Stay with me, lol.
This sort of "tomfoolery" also goes on in the world on a myriad of stages. Specifically, the single world of what used to be called "dating".
Some dating still goes on, however, most of it is the lazy persons' version.
The dreaded "hanging out".
The even more dreaded, "hooking up."
UGH
The guy with self respect, courtesy for others, a sense of honor will, actually make the effort to court, to date, to honor the lady he chooses.
Yes, in a healthy situation, the guy chooses.
The sperm chases the egg. You can argue with eternal biology.
You can. The truth speaks the facts.
Oh, the girl can try to court the guy. The guy may like her, he will have sexual interaction with her if she allows it, yet, there will be a violation of natural laws.
The brutal truth is that she will be perceived as a desperado, whether by the guy or other onlookers.
There are many guys out there in the world ........
(As told by the straight girl that I am)
these guys may be married or otherwise attached in a committed relationship. He is out there acting like he is single & free to court & date the girl, often girls, of his choosing.
Sometimes he truly is single with no girl or wife, yet, he is like a little bumblebee, flitting from girl to girl, having a great time!
These guys aka "Players" are a scourge on society.
These are the reason that child support laws came to be. Many fatherless children who have the financial support, little else.
These bumblebee guys have caused the Feminist movement.
According to them?
They are just having "fun" aka "sex".
Sowing wild oats.
Gaining experience.
Playing the field.
All at the expense of the fatherless children, broken hearted girls, sometimes spreading STD's.
In days long ago, a guy who played with the heart of a girl, leading her on. Leading her to believe he cared about her with honorable intent, then, one day, vanished or was seen courting another girl at the same time?
Her male kin would locate him, have a serious talk with him. Depending upon the outcome, it could result in a serious ass whooping! In present day, September 2018, that's illegal.
Too bad.
Equally?
The girl who wished to be the equivalent ~ "the honeybee" would be shunned by many people in society when her antics became known. She could flit around with whomever she wished, disregarding the gents marital status.
She had more to lose than did the bumblebee. There was the shunning, ruined prospects for marriage, pregnancy, even violent jealous lovers. She was often rejected by family & society.
Are you still with me?
Much of the ills of the past were effective, yet, I admit, not 100% effective.
In my personal experience, the dating world is akin to a parlour of fools. Male and Female.
Girls who are so desperate to be loved, they accept almost anyone. He will tire of her quickly, treat her badly. She is often left to raise a child whose sperm donor has moved on long before the precious child has been born. She may also be left with a broken heart, a lack of trust in males or even the dreaded "souvenir" of the relationship.
Girls are drawn to what they hear, guys are drawn to who they see.
Guys lie to get gain, girls wear makeup & get cosmetic surgery.
To a lesser degree, guys may also be drawn to other aspects as well as girls being drawn to other masculine tributes.
As I re-entered the dating world after a long term relationship ended (I chose to end it when the abuse became too much to live with) I was horrified by the changes I saw.
Everyone...everyone was so fake. People would use other people for whatever they wanted & as much as they could get. Truthful people who genuinely acted as decent humans, aka friends, were very rare.
Sad
Terrifying
Disheartening
Disappointing
Remember the artificial flower in the floral shop?
Same concept.
Plastic fruit.
Nipples on men.
Holographic humans.
Slowly, with every disappointment, I realized that the person I was, with good intent, was a complete opposite of the people out there who were single or pretending to be single. Users, con artists, don't even get me started on the married people trolling online dating sites as well as online chat rooms, looking for sex. Then there were the "Boomerangs". That's a whole topic for a different blog entry.
UGH!
What I thought I knew was that all people are basically good.
The truth was, it's a murky water, it's a difficult process to discern who is safe & who is unsafe for physical safety. Even more than this, who is safe to trust with your heart, your spiritual well being.
I found that what I thought I knew for sure, it had changed in so many ways.
Misplacing my trust, I began to doubt my own judgment.
Now? In present day? Having learned to enjoy my own company, being thrilled by travel, service to others, fitness pursuits!
Life is good!
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