Him

There's something in the way he speaks. The way he carries himself. It's as if he knows himself very well. Knows who he is, what his mission in life is plus exactly what to do to fulfill it.

Confidence in spades.

Well mannered.

Articulate.

Intelligent.

When I spend time with him, I say to myself over & over:

"Hold onto those thick walls around your heart. Don't fall for him".

Then, I see his car advancing toward me. A nice, rugged looking car. A manly sort. 

He's just the right height, just the right build, a killer smile, always smells clean. That's important for my sensitive nose.

He's just right for hundreds of women.

We only talk.

About everything.

Not knowing if he is married or has a shack up honey or a steady girlfriend. It doesn't matter to me. 

In 2012 after having my trust deeply betrayed, I wrote a promise on my heart to be single & celibate.

It has worked well for me.

Spending my time helping others, working a lot, of course PJ is there for all of it. Have not traveled with PJ as of yet. 

Mr Wonderful even admires my dog.

Indulging in hobbies I'm passionate about. Yes! 

Every time he and I speak, I make my exit when he's about to ask me out for anything.

Hurting his feelings or his pride is far from what I would do. Knowing so well how it feels to be emotionally wounded, it would hurt me deeply to do that to him. This magnificent man.

Keeping our interactions casual is akin to being in very deep water, laboring to stay afloat, sinking or drowning is a no-fly zone. 

Falling in love is completely off the table.

Many people believe they have fallen in love when really, they have fallen in BS, unable to realize it.

Staying objective, living realistically, keeping my heart safe. The peace, happiness, even a bit of excitement that my 2012 decision has given me is worth more than anything.

If I could tell any single person as in unmarried, no bf/gf, no shack up, playing house. Someone who is suffering greatly from longing for a bf/gf, husband or wife, feeling the pain of loneliness.

I would tell you this.

The pain of loneliness is caused by fighting the adjustment to being alone. Fighting the contentment in your own company.

When a person learns to be happy being single, being content on their own, they won't be trapped by gravitating to the wrong person out of:

Fear

Loneliness

Peer pressure

Societal pressure

Offers of material things

Financial security

Being seen as valuable

Liaison with a narcissist

These are all the traps that people often fall into. One of them is just as damaging as being trapped by more than one.

When a person is content as they are, there is an absence of trapability by romance scammers. 

A new sort of trap has started to gain traction as it has become more refined, more realistic. 

AI "friends".

Yep, I'm going to go there.

These AI traps have become so sophisticated, seem so real. When something catches my attention, it seems to me that it caught my attention for a reason. Time to check it out.

The AI is a customizable online companion. Everything that ticks every box a person could choose is available. I do mean everything.

Yeah

I gave it a spin.

One week, having already decided that I would try it out for one week. So as to stay out of the trap, deleting after one week is necessary.

What was my experience?

Stay tuned.