All the single girls...

Guys! 

Read, if you wish, wherever I am, you are welcome.

My love for the chivalrous gender remains strong.

Single girls? This is dedicated to you, well, mostly!

Being very comfortable, happy, unfettered in my single life is a good life. A life of low to no drama (a little is cool, just a little!).

A life of serenity, peaceful existence with travel & sweet little sparkles of occasional excitement is how this girl rolls.

As well as sometimes rocks!

Life was very different for me 10 - 15 years ago.

15 years ago I was mostly unhappy in an abusive marriage.

10 years ago I was trying to figure out how to be single again after being married for a long time.

7 years ago I left Colorado where the abusive male had forced me to move to against my will with lies & manipulation to coerce me.

7 years ago I moved to Texas.

7 years ago, I had mostly, with great sadness, given up on dating or finding someone to love who would love me in return.

7 years ago, a male who I had nearly married at age 20, found me on the internet. He came back into my life just long enough to shatter my heart for the last time I would ever allow it.

7 years ago, the above mentioned, did me a favor, effectively killing my desire to have a guy in my life.

In the following 5 years I went through some serious difficulties due to the ex huzz manipulating finances as well as suffering from the effects of PTSD/MST. I was going without food for periods of time as long as a week, sometimes living on popcorn & oatmeal. I had to move from place to place within the town I live in, as my finances were being manipulated.

2 years ago, I experienced an improvement in my finances.

1 year ago I experienced Hawai'i as a tourist. 
Befo' time, lol, I either lived there or stayed at the home of a friend. I have to say, the amenities in the hotel room of the 5 star hotel makes me WANT a bidet! TMI. lol.

One thing I have learned in life is to (OMG so cliche'!!!) never say never.

So, I WILL say, that it is only a certain type of guy who could get into my heart, if there is one of these rare single guys. Those guys are very few, very rare. I have only met 3 in my entire life. 

*NOTE* It has zero to do with money, height, social status.

This certain type of guy is one who is feeling, caring, confident, intelligent, intuitive, a little sarcastic at times, it adds to his charm!!!!

He is rare, in my experience.

So! Single girls!

We all have our own path in life. Your path may be completely different from mine or it may be similar. I am grateful to, the one who I refer to as Mr. 2012, for effectively killing 99% of my desire to have a guy to share my life with. Temp or permanent.

His actions hu-urt like a BAMF!

All pain - All gain

He did a favor for me.

I became less needy, unfortunately my drive is fully intact, I know you know what I'm saying!!!

I became more immune to the liars, players, scammers out there.

Also?

I became a more peaceful person. More spiritual. More creative. 

Having always been a bit of a rebel, I became more of a free spirited woman. In mind, in body, I began to detect positive changes within myself.

Having always, for as long as I can remember, been very in tune with my body, that "in tune" became more "fine tuned".

"Things" began to shift, to change in many positive ways. My spirituality has always been strong, I became more spiritual.

Intuition has always been a HUGE part of me. It sharpened!

Although my desire to be creative left for "a time". It was always on a mental/emotional back burner, if you will.

Yes, it came back, too!

In time, I found myself counseling my single GFs in how to achieve this mindset that has brought me so much happiness & peace!

As much as I wanted to bottle it, give it, alas. 

It's too personal in nature. Very individualized.

Like any form of personal change, personal improvement, all creatures great & small must find it for themselves.

The facets of peace I have found are ones I offer to those who will listen as well as some who do not:
(It's a choice)

1. Let yourself adjust to living alone, standing on your own. Before you involve anyone else in your life, you must first be happy solo.

2. Get to know yourself. Ask yourself questions all day

a.) What do I like?

b.) What makes me feel happiness that has nothing to do with other people?

c.) What do I bring to offer a friend, a lover, a neighbor?

d.) Do I enjoy cold weather? Warm? Somewhere in between?

3. Get 1 hour of heart pounding exercise every day!

4. Clean up your diet if you have not, already. Eliminate sugar as much as possible, eliminate fast food & processed food as much as possible. Eat a low salt diet that is as natural as possible.

5. At a minimum, straighten your bed covers every day.

This was the short list.

These are the facilitated changes I have made. 

Single guys? Are you still with me? These can work for you, too!

These are such simple concepts. In a personal desire to help others, I hope this helps those people (male & female) suffering in their loneliness which we all encounter from time to time.

Love, peace & excitement to you, you, you & you!