The Times of Life

Sometimes the day comes to let people go, even if you still love them, even if.....even if. Friendships are precious yet only when they are mutual.

When you both help each other.

When the ties that bind are regularly renewed.

If you are both better people because of each other.

Your values align.

Conversations from long ago can resume.

Both people valuing each other.

Being there for each other is a surety.

You can be of different religions, different lifestyles, differing political views. Still, the love for each other, the ties that bind.

It's all still there as it has always been no matter what.

In my short life I have had so many great people who I have been so happy to truly call my friends. There have also been a few times that I had to realize that, though I was there for certain people, they were not there for me. A friendship that started out well, devolved into something unwell. Like a sickness that starts out as a tickle in the throat. Then, becomes more until it's strep throat or much worse.

Though I had been happy around them at the start, it became that I was a sadder person because of them.

That, I felt more like I was being used by them.

It's a sad thing, while it's also a necessary thing to let them go. Let them find their helpers, their happiness, their people somewhere else.

Letting go can be hard yet when it's necessary, it feels so good once it's done. You are a kind person, a valuable person, even a wiser person when you realize this then let them go. You will keep those people in your life who truly care about you, whom you truly care about. People who you would give your blood to save, your money to provide relief if that was, indeed, what it took because you care.

People who fail to show courtesy, love, etc can be your grown children. Your siblings. Your parents. Relatives by blood or marriage. These connections can only carry the connection to a certain point. Then, one day, you realize that the connection has died either on one side or by both people.

It's wise to let go. Never beg someone to care about you.

When those same people don't feel the same or it's obvious that they are disproportionate takers, that's when it's time to let them go. Life gives us all twists & turns. It's tricky at times, to navigate. Navigate is a skill in itself. Without navigating our lives we can easily be navigated by others for their assorted, often nefarious purposes.

Learn to be definitive in your opinions, your decisions, your likes & dislikes. It will serve you well.

Some readers might have thought it would be a poem.

Hah!

This morning, these are just some thoughts I had.

Thank you for reading.