Single Shaming

 

All over the world, there are many kind hearted people. Many people who are compassionate, very kind whilst keeping healthy boundaries.

Then?

There are the other kind with a myriad of degrees of nice, mean, etc. Many facets exist within most people. The anonymity of the internet can bring out the kindness of many people. It can also bring out the other.

Uh oh.

There are as many facets of shaming as there are people, possibly even more.

Uh oh x 2.

The internet can bring out the worst aspects of humans under the protection of anonymity. 

Tonight, there was a very shady individual who was clearly violating the rules on the page, trying to peddle wares that were not as they were claiming them to be. Many people were commenting, coming down hard on the scammer. 

It must have been my lucky night! 

The scammer singled me out for a verbal attack. They stalked me on my FB page to find something to use against me. Too bad he wasn't looking for needlework patterns, he would have been in needlework heaven! There was nothing else they could use. Possibly the scammer was one of very little brain. The best shot the scammer had was to single shame me.

Mm Hm.

I busted up laughing at such a weak approach. 

The scammer stated that the reason I'm single is very clear.

Is this 1621 or 2021?

As of 1960, women were no longer considered property of their fathers or their husbands or even their son. If their dear papa was deceased & they were unmarried, they were the property of their male next of kin.

Women can now vote, own property, drive a motor vehicle, work in a job or career of their own choosing. In present day women can choose whom they marry or not marry at all. 

The same privileges males have enjoyed for centuries.

How could I even think I could exist with no racing stripes to wash out of someone else's underwear. Did I really believe that I could be happy without someone to tell me how to spend my own hard earned cash & expect me to clean the house, cook the meals & hippity hop into bed at his command???? Could I actually be happy without all of that?

Hellz to the yeah, I am!

So, the scammer probably had some holdover anger left in DNA with the anger of having lost the place of ownership over females.

Since divorcing more than a decade ago, I find that I am happier. Also more productive, have much less anxiety, decreased depression, remaining single & celibate.

I have had four marriage proposals since the divorce, I choose to remain unmarried. Unfettered by the energy plus demands that it takes to be in a married, committed relationship. Some people would be ballsy enough to ask, 

"What about sex?"

That, alone, has it's own complications, risks, difficulties that I would much rather live without. This is why I choose to be single & celibate.

Not that it's anyone's business except my own. I feel more peaceful since I stopped dating at all. Putting my time plus my energy into more productive, gratifying activities which benefit me greatly.

Most people are afraid to be alone. Afraid to be single, live alone, to face their own highs plus lows in life on their own.

I get it. Truly, dear readers, I understand.

When the scammer verbally attacked me, it said more about them than it did about me. It told me that the scammer had stalker tendencies to go into my Facebook page looking for something they thought would hurt or offend me.

All the stalker/scammer found was that I'm single.

Wow! The shame of being a person who is strong enough to stand on their own. A person who knows what they bring to the table, therefore, perfectly fine with sitting alone vs settling so they can have someone, anyone who will have them. Screenshotting the posts for a time when I want a really good laugh, storing them in my hard drive.

In truth, it's a more enjoyable, more peaceful existence. Quite enjoying my own company is preferable when I have experienced who is out there in the world. 

Married people acting as if they are single, single males who practically demand sex, narcissists who look for people to provide narcissistic supply for them. People who have low integrity to no integrity in the insidious practice of ghosting.

Plenty of fish, most are sharks, barracudas, piranhas. The rest are mostly emotionally damaged, insecure, immature. Many are incapable of knowing how to handle a strong, free spirited woman. I'm sure there are a few secure, emotionally mature, evolved into real men, out there, very few.