The Times of Life

Sometimes the day comes to let people go, even if you still love them, even if.....even if. Friendships are precious yet only when they are mutual.

When you both help each other.

When the ties that bind are regularly renewed.

If you are both better people because of each other.

Your values align.

Conversations from long ago can resume.

Both people valuing each other.

Being there for each other is a surety.

You can be of different religions, different lifestyles, differing political views. Still, the love for each other, the ties that bind.

It's all still there as it has always been no matter what.

In my short life I have had so many great people who I have been so happy to truly call my friends. There have also been a few times that I had to realize that, though I was there for certain people, they were not there for me. A friendship that started out well, devolved into something unwell. Like a sickness that starts out as a tickle in the throat. Then, becomes more until it's strep throat or much worse.

Though I had been happy around them at the start, it became that I was a sadder person because of them.

That, I felt more like I was being used by them.

It's a sad thing, while it's also a necessary thing to let them go. Let them find their helpers, their happiness, their people somewhere else.

Letting go can be hard yet when it's necessary, it feels so good once it's done. You are a kind person, a valuable person, even a wiser person when you realize this then let them go. You will keep those people in your life who truly care about you, whom you truly care about. People who you would give your blood to save, your money to provide relief if that was, indeed, what it took because you care.

People who fail to show courtesy, love, etc can be your grown children. Your siblings. Your parents. Relatives by blood or marriage. These connections can only carry the connection to a certain point. Then, one day, you realize that the connection has died either on one side or by both people.

It's wise to let go. Never beg someone to care about you.

When those same people don't feel the same or it's obvious that they are disproportionate takers, that's when it's time to let them go. Life gives us all twists & turns. It's tricky at times, to navigate. Navigate is a skill in itself. Without navigating our lives we can easily be navigated by others for their assorted, often nefarious purposes.

Learn to be definitive in your opinions, your decisions, your likes & dislikes. It will serve you well.

Some readers might have thought it would be a poem.

Hah!

This morning, these are just some thoughts I had.

Thank you for reading.

Need To Know

As this is being written, it's midsummer. Far from a poetic midsummer night's dream with Titania & her fairies. It's ~

House Flies

House Flies

More House Flies

One on my neighbors (no names) had no problem with moving their compost pile away from their house. As in, over the property line of the property I'm renting.

NOT my landlady who is next door street wise.

Although I'm renting, I still have certain property rights. As in, if occupants of a property close to the one I'm in, move their compost pile over the property line, I pay to rent it, it's still in my rights.

As each summer has started, it has been the same sh*t.

They move the compost pile close to me, so, I get the house flies. One aspect of life that bothers me the most is - HOUSE FLIES.

Going to the occupants to ask them to move it back every summer is quite rude on their part. It's also annoying along with the plethora of house flies.

ICK

Although the remainder of flies are here, just have to get rid of them.

A method of getting rid of them is:

Use a fine spray bottle, they can't launch with wet wings.

Set a bowl of warm water & something sweet to attract them then they drown.

Gather energy, then kill the nasties.

Eventually, the flies will either be disposed of or they will hibernate to procreate when warm weather returns.

UGH!

Until then, some methods I use:

Ground Cinnamon sprinkled in trash repels flies.

Peppermint Oil repels rodents & other disgusting creatures.

(roaches, beetles, silverfish, slugs etc)

Lavender Oil repels all biting, stinging flying nuisances.

Wild Orange oil swabbed around entrances repels insects

Eucalyptus Oil disinfects, leaves a pleasantly clean scent.

Now, to be a bit sexist:

It's said that most men dislike scents that are deemed to be more feminine.

Jasmine

Rose

Lavender & Rose Blend

Most floral scents are deemed as feminine.

To attract?

Many scents that are said to be pleasant, even slightly masculine by many are:

Lavender

Leather

Patchouli

Vanilla

Wild Orange

Lemon

Vetiver

Sandalwood

Disclaimer ~ Using these oils may not bring guys to your home in droves (that would be super scary)

However, they are scents most guys like.

Many people think of Texas as the whole state being hot & dry all over, all the time. Living in North Texas, I can say, it is somewhat humid as well as very hot in the end of spring, most of summer. It cools off to more pleasant temps around the end of September. Many Texans LOVE the weather of October - February when it's just cool enough, still warm. Might need a jacket, keep one in the car.

As a result, the beetles & bugs might find a way indoors in October, that's when I place cotton balls soaked in pepppermint oil in cupboards, around windowsills. Swabbing peppermint oil around doorframes also helps to keep most of the critters out.

The only time I wish I had a guy in the house is when I see one of those big beetles, scorpions or spiders that got in. Although I can take care of it on my own, it would be nice to be a distressed damsel. Even if only until the critters were disposed of.

Maybe someone ought to invent live-in-guy on demand. Get him out when needed, stow him away when no more critters are invading.

Kinda like a video streaming subscription. Entertainment on demand.

Unfortunately, it is something that has yet to be invented if ever.

Other need to know information might be this.

Yes, you may be a girl of any age. You can still get rid of bugs, scorpions, even rattle snakes on your own. A few years ago I had taken a 2 week trip. Being happy to be home, I stepped inside, heard an odd sound. Then I heard it, again. It was originating from a tall, round, metal rubbish bin. 

I knew that sound.

Very slowly, I inched toward the bin. It was, just as I thought it was. A rattlesnake, coiled in the bottom of the bin.

Panicking was a non-option, wishing it would go away on its own was even less of an option. I had to woman up & take care of it.

Grabbing a broom with a long handle, the striking distance of a rattler of this size, I calculated, was 3 feet. The long broom handle was 6 feet. Reasonably safe. Very slowly, moving the broom pole through the slots on both sides of the metal bin, moving toward the front door, stepping outside, rapidly releasing the bin so that the snake slithered safely out & away.

Was I scared?

Heck yes!

Was I shaking?

Absolutely.

Hadn't gotten my rattler vaccination caught up. (just kidding!)

The situation was frightening, could have gone from bad to worse. I handled it because I had to. It's far from something I'd do for fun.

As a girl who chooses to remain single, it accompanies the lifestyle.

In todays world, women who choose to overcome the urge to merge can take care of such situations just as well as a guy can. We can take care of house flies, rattle snakes etc.

As for unwelcome human visitors ~ I have a 105 lb male Doberman with a bark like thunder. 

My Doberman is the only man I choose to have in my life.

Locked in or Locked out

It seems like a simple concept.

Step 1

Gear up

Step 2

Put some motivating tunes on if you can

Step 3

Give yourself a small task to get the mojo going

Step 4

If that was a no go, give yourself another small task

Step 5

If that also crashed & flopped change up your music

Suggestion 1

Take a cold shower or get into an ice bath

2

Take yourself back in time or forward in time to when you felt so motivated, it came together

3

If you can, rearrange your furniture, then take a 10 minute walk

Arriving back home will give the sensation of walking into a new place. Newness does it for me the best.

4

Set a timer then start a task. When the times up, stop, drink a glass of cold water. Repeat.

5

Change the music it can change your mood

6 

For me, if these won't launch, I turn to a workout supplement, depending upon the time of day. Notice that this is #6. 

When all else is keeping the mojo from launching.

7

Step back, look at what you accomplished whether great big or itty bitty.

These words, these suggestions are as much for my personal use as they are for anyone reading this. Motivation can be elusive, it can seem difficult to summon. It's also free. It's up to you to remove your own mind blocks to accomplishments.

PEEPS!

Knowing how hard life can be is just as true as how hard a person can make it for themselves. The happy-happy is that a person can also create that which will ease the stuckness of life that can stop us from doing that which will aid us in our success. Whatever that success is or looks like for each individual.

As I have moved through time (getting older is optional) developing a "Let's do the thing" attitude has been a helper. A gift to me from me just because knowing that regret is one of the strongest emotions.

As I do this from time to time, it clears the "stuck" feeling. As I climb aboard the "I'm doing this" from the "I wish I could" the feeling of "I got this" pushes the he/she's stuck away.

We are all in this together, wherever you are, whatever your life situation is.

I believe in you.

You can do the thing.

Get ready to go do it, slayer!